I feel so deeply for those children. I was that child, and I haven’t fully recovered from the pain of it as an adult. I blame my parent and the other person equally. They both knew what they were doing. Both wreaked chaos on my life. I understand that marriages fall apart, and I respect divorce, but to subject a kid to that pain of betrayal from within a marriage, especially within the child’s own house is just the worst thing imaginable. I really like your writing, and I admire your openness here, but it’s hurtful to not hear you share more remorse for the family.