I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in writing this. Thank you. And I’m so sorry that was your experience, although it sounds like you gained skills you’re grateful to have now. While I wasn’t responsible for paying bills or doing most of the household chores as an upper middle-class white child, I did do emotional labor and was parentified from a very young age, expected to take care of my parents' emotions through turbulent years and comfort my siblings through the trauma and volatility as well. I’m not offended by the word or concept of “adulting,” but I am extremely protective of children being able to be children, and being protected from physical, emotional, and financial labor until those things become age appropriate. I disagree that families “fail” children who grow up being treated as children. It sounds like the way you grew up was traumatic and I empathize deeply.